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A Time for Change
Everyday a Spiritual Voice Echoes throughout the Whole World and Says
"Wake Up & Change Your Life"
"Sefer Shinuyim" - "Book of Change"
But are you in tune? Are you sensitive enough to hear this voice every day? Do you hear the need to change your life? Do you feel uncomfortable and have that inner feeling that your life is NOT in order? Do you feel that inner need to change your life for the better?
CHANGE
On this page we explain 3 points, the next page we explain"ability to make the changes" and then on the following page of "thinking positive", we explain the recipe of change by changing our thoughts and attitudes to enable changes to occur with ease. Then "the Pathway to Enlightenment", teaches practicalities and methods to real changes in a real world by clearing blockages within ones soul from the Book of Changes - Sefer Shinuyim written by Jonathan Waxman.
1. Understanding the 7 Stages of life; life is split into 7 segments, in which a different set of rules apply in surviving and handling the challenges of that stage of life.
2. Understanding the 5 Stages of life transformation.
3. Understanding the purpose of change, lessons in "peace of mind" and learning to take life calmly, accepting everything that happens is for our best .
The physical growth during our lives is simply a reflection of our spiritual growth as the levels of ones soul enter the physical body. As we grow and mature physically through these stages, we transform and change. In each period of our lives a different set of parameters/ rules apply. It would be inconceivable that a 30 year old should behave with the same way a baby behaves, although we all know some people who never seem to grow up!
1. Infancy & Early Childhood 0 to 7 years old
Learning to survive, relying totally on the people around, copying and emulating everyone. The survival of the first seven years is based totally, in receiving energy from others by any means possible, crying, demanding, cheating and deception, or more subtly through loving and being sweet. Whatever technique is applied to receiving from the adult world, this leaves a lasting impression on ones soul and is carried forward into adult life, unless changed by reprogramming this behavioral pattern.
In this infancy stage a baby reacts naturally, when something hurts and pains the immediate reaction is to cry. Crying clears the negative energy so much that the infant will almost immediately forget the pain after a good cry. Crying is not only a way of attracting attention, but an inner spiritual reaction to dissolving the negative hurt. The child will also immediately forgive the hurt or damage and will never harbour any resentment.
As adults, we forget this normal reaction that we were supposed to have learnt, and fight the pain by suppressing the hurt feelings. Until the hurt becomes too much to cope with and affects the health of the adult. It would therefore be an excellent idea if we would learn from this infant stage, and cry whenever there is hurt instead of suppressing the negative emotions and forgive and forget immediately, instead of harbouring resentment jealousy bitterness, all the negative emotions that prevent us living as complete and wholesome adults with lovely purposeful lives.
2. Childhood 7 - 15 years old
The emergence of the personality and copied identity, during these years a person, still impressed and sensitive to emulate the people, the mannerisms and character of those they come into contact with, start to develop their own individualistic character.
This character is based entirely on the influences that the child comes into contact with. If the child is brought up by a nanny and the television, the parents must expect to see a confused child of our modern society. If the child is brought up by kind intelligent educated, thoughtful and loving parents, whom allow the child to be impressed by their etiquette and decency. The child will indeed copy the identity of those parents.
These years of education and transformation of character are the basis of the adult life. If in later years the adult has made mistakes and erred, it is because the foundation of ones character in these years was poor. Hence in reforming and changing ones nature in later years, imperatively one needs to look at the influences of these childhood years. De- brainwashing and reprogramming all the false copied characteristics one was impressed during childhood.
As Dr Carl Jung, the eminent Swiss psychologist says inherently no person is bad or evil, it is simply their soul and character has been tainted by bad influences. Everyone is intrinsically good, and has the potential to accomplish greatness and goodness with love, kindness and sincerity.
3. Adolescence, 15 until 21-26 years old
The element of ones soul known as the Ruach רוּח, enters ones physical life and spiritual soul during these years. This essence of ones spirit soul Ruach is the power of speech. The power of speech allows a person to communicate ones inner thoughts from ones soul to another person. Thereby creating energy whether it has constructive, through intelligent, kind and loving words, or destructive, through lies, deceit and slander. This period of ones life allows the adolescent to explore these energies, both constructive and destructive.
The inner hormonal changes, peer groups, doubts and questions, help the adolescent refine and developer an individuality of character. Exploring life helps the young adult find ones own individualistic identity, values and purpose in life. During this transition from childhood to adulthood, one may feel disorientated, especially, if the basis in childhood was incorrect. A level of insecurity comes with the changing adolescent, until one learns to have self confidence.
If indeed a person has had to undergo a complete life change in later years, the insecurity during that change is the insecurity of the adolescent, until confidence in the self is gained by having the strength of character, to intrinsically know that all is now repaired within ones soul.
This is especially true after a divorce, where the honest person questions ones life pathway and has many adolescent doubts and lacks a self confidence.
If the characteristics taught in the childhood stage and carried forward in this period were hateful, selfish and materialistic, the young adult will continue with this basis in life, surviving by developing a ruthless and selfish character. It may take many years before something happens to awaken the person to the truth, or the person may actually continue along this pathway and then straight into old age - a living death, without any consideration for anything as profound as a spiritual soul.
4. Adulthood - from adolescence until 30-45 years old
Adulthood is the creative period of ones life. This stage allows all the lessons and foundations of ones character that one has developed to then assume a responsible role in life.
Marriage and sexual intimacy for the purpose of creating loving energy and having children., at this stage one has transformed ones nature from a taker of energy, to a creator and giver of loving and supportive energy .
Ones career and purpose in life are formed in this period, and an identity label of whom you are is formed. This identity is based on your foundations of the earlier stages and guided by your values your set yourself during adolescence.
The achievements in ones life during this period identify who the person is and are simply a reflection of the inner soul. If compared to a budding flower some radiate beauty, colour scent and aroma whilst some simply grow leaves and seeds. Nonetheless everyone has an individualistic and unique purpose and identity, the fruits of ones earlier stages of life.
5. The Mid Life Crisis, from 26 - 45 years old until the end of life
This period is exceedingly important, and happens to everyone. Some people choose to ignore their feelings, suppressing any need for change, and settle themselves into directly into old age - a selfish life without use or creative purpose. However, most people, use these feelings sensibly to either make slight alterations to their lives or turn their useless lives upside-down starting afresh and building solid foundations.
During the mid-life crisis years, a person will have dissatisfaction with attainments in life; and will have a growing awareness of physical decline and mortality. Experiencing down-in-the-dumps depressing moments, with feelings that the life they wanted and dreamt of is not as expected, the vitality and sense of loving creative purpose they had imagined as a child is not there, and there seems to be a hollow vacuum. This stage of life will have the emphasis on a search for truth, meaning and purpose of life.
Having pursued with vigour the desires, wishes and fantasies of a teenager, by the mid life crisis years, the honest person will realize that these were the wishes and desires of an immature teenager. Now with the wisdom of experience, the gift of intuition, strength of an adult and with honesty, the individual confronts the innermost feelings. Knowing that getting-it-right will lead to a wholesome and golden stage of life. Getting it wrong will lead to a premature living death.
Hence it becomes an emergency to CHANGE, at all costs, even at the expense of status in life, if the job is depressing and draining then there is no other option than to quit the job or business or at the expense of divorce, especially if one realizes that the husband/wife isn’t even ones soulmate. These are some of the drastic measures we know people in mid-life experience and are perfectly normal.
Recognizing the uselessness and wastefulness of the earlier years, may lead some to fall into a depression or even worse try escape tactics, and that includes getting on with life as usual by suppressing the feelings ones souls is trying to express. This occurs as one may feel the changes in ones life are simply too overwhelming to do, and other people may get hurt upset or offended, especially spouses whom do not comprehend this stage in life and refuse to be supportive or change, preferring to have security in the status quo instead of an improved spiritual and purposeful life.
However, after a period of sulking and feeling sorry for oneself, analyzing the worst scenarios, the sensible person recognizes the need for transformation.
This time of transformation, is always accompanied by reminiscing the childhood and adolescent years. This is instinctively done by the soul, as a way to help identify the lost mid-life crisis person where they went wrong.
The root cause for not having a perfect and wholesome life is that the foundations laid were of poor quality. By uprooting those bad foundations and laying new ones, based on spiritual, purposeful, loving and creative values, the person transforms the inherent childhood and adolescent stages that were engrained, (and in some cases brainwashed) by misinformed and misguided parents. One then learns to be ones own parent, laying foundations based on ones own personal experiences and mistakes.
When a movie director makes a film, the director has a very clear end vision fixed in their head. The director will use his/her experience insights and knowledge to keep going over the same scene until its 100% correct. Similarly the honest adult in mid-life crisis will keep on making the corrections until the perfect end vision that ones soul and Guardian Angels can see is fulfilled. However, painful and boring it maybe to keep going over the same scene, the persons soul realizes that unless it is perfect, they will not be able to live with the uncomfortable feelings of a lack of purpose and void in life.
6. The Golden Age, from mid life crisis years until old age
This period is ONLY applicable to those people whom have worked on themselves during the mid-life crisis years, refining their character with spiritual meaning of life. This person now has a life of creative purpose based on kindness, love and spiritual understanding.
The person radiates and exudes life and vitality. It is said that many successful 40 year olds look younger that some old aged 30 year olds. Having attained the goal of realigning their principles ideals and goals in life, they are given an amazing new lease of life. Having discarded all the draining situations out of their lives, they are only left with good friends of similar purposeful lives.
In this GOLDEN period, comes a maturity and knowledge that all of life is interrelated in a cycle of life and loving energy; there is no shortage nor scarcity of love, as love is created by ones thoughts and actions and abundance runs freely in ones life. One becomes and exudes contentment with whatever one has, one no longer forces life to happen and a serenity of peacefulness, harmony and calmness reigns.
As the person radiates these feelings, goodness and happiness are now attracted into the person’s life magically and magnetically.
To the person who has been blessed with the stage of “Golden Age” then the next stage of old age may only last a few weeks or even a few hours to a truly righteous person, whom have fulfilling lives until the day one dies.
7. Old age, possibly from 30 years old on
This period of old age is the acceptance that ones productive creative years have ended, and that the person no longer has anything to offer of any purpose to other people.
The confrontation of eventual death, together with the fact that the person has no spiritual values, they can become more materialistic and selfish, with fears of lack that they will not have enough money in later years. They become ruthless and arrogantly selfish, in complete atheistic denial that there is a GOD or any form of belief on life-after-death.
These people survive life, by using the power of creative speech to lie and destroy other people’s lives. As they intrinsically know their lives are lost and wasted, so ruthlessly they desire to destroy as many good people along with them, by their deceit and manipulation.
The sincerely good people, who are living in an enlightened spiritual “Golden Age” of their lives, sense this and see through these types of people, keeping a safe distance away from them. Usually after the midlife crisis years, we find groups of people whom have polarized themselves into either constructive creative people with a life energy and vitality of the “Golden Age” and another group of the arrogant selfish and materialistic living dead at the “OLD AGE” stage of life. There is simply no in between.
Sadly for those whom have resigned themselves not to change in their mid-life crisis, they have chosen by their freewill to be selfish and not to give to others, they have committed spiritual suicide on themselves. They have chosen to disconnect from the eternal Divine life energy of GOD, and hence survive by stealing life energy from other people, which after a time all the intrinsically good people feel a “draining energy” when connected with these people.
These people have a real fear of death and eventually leave this world with no idea or spiritual preparation for what waits. Once they have died, they are soon forgotten, as they have left nothing of any purpose or use in their selfish lives.
Although old age can start at 30, for women this can occur earlier, in particular those women who choose not to have, lack any wish or desire to have children. Similarly men who have operations to prevent them having children, they have disconnected with the creative life energy. They have brought selfish old age upon themselves, ofcourse this pathway of self destruction can be stopped at any moment by simply waking up spiritually.
Life Changes Can Occur at Anytime
Now that we understand that life has 7 stages, we shall now introduce the idea of 5 stages of change. Change can occur during ANY stage of life, at anytime, can take a year or 10 years, there is no time limit set on change, it is up to the ability of ones soul to cope with and transform.
Nonetheless the person usually goes through a reflective period in their lives during the mid-life crisis years, which acts as a catalyst of change, at that stage of life one can reflect clearly and with enough experiences of life, to make the right corrections to change life into a fulfilling and purposeful life.
2. The 5 Stages of Life's Transformation & Change
Change can be easy; by changing your thoughts, you change your feelings, and thus change your actions and events in your life. In our generation, we have better skills to deal with problems and situations, as we are more enlightened and aware than ever before in history.
Even still, it often has to get darker before it becomes lighter and brighter. In our modern world, we do not need to wait until something happens to cause us to change. In fact, you can choose to live a change oriented, rich, and fulfilling life right NOW. To transform your life, you need to raise your awareness, practice pro-activity, and live by your vision, purpose, and values.
“There is nothing about a caterpillar that tells you it's going to be a butterfly”, this quote from the famous Tiferes Yisroel, Reb Yisroel Lipschitz in his book “Derush Ohr HaChayim” explaining the ability to simply have faith during any process and stage of change in ones life. He illustrates the change process perfectly as a butterfly represents a thing of great beauty.
A butterfly completely transforms itself from a caterpillar into a comfortable cocoon then into a radiant entity with wings. You are like a beautiful butterfly waiting to be re-born and transformed. Don’t be frightened of change!
Stage 1: Cocoon Stage
This stage is characterized by feelings of comfort, as you are beginning to awaken to the need to change. You begin to realize you could be so much more and recognize an error in judgment or dysfunctional pattern(s).
Stage 2: Growth Stage
This stage is characterized by feelings of discomfort, as you are beginning to stretch yourself, your abilities, and your environment. You experience new ways of being and thinking and have the desire to transform yourself.
Stage 3: Change Stage
This stage is characterized by feelings of panic and fear, as you are beginning to look, feel, and act differently. You have a gut instinct that this change will be good for you and request that Spirit and your Guardian Angels assist you to provide with you with reassurance signs and guidance.
Nonetheless, during this stage, you may feel like your whole life is falling and has fallen apart, the only hope being sadness, loneliness, death and misery, you will probably be extremely fragile and sensitive. Just think of the caterpillar transforming into the butterfly, trust that you are changing and suddenly when the time is right you will come alive, with a brighter and more fulfilled life.
Stage 4: Flight Stage
This stage is characterized by feelings of confidence and courage, as you spread your wings to leave your old home to find a new home. You now recognize yourself as a beautiful creature, have excitement about future possibilities and you just do it.
Stage 5: Conscious Stage
This stage is characterized by feelings of inner peace and joy, as you remember and realize who you really are. You now understand that you are a co-creator and possess the power to become whatever you want to be and do whatever you want to do.
Explanation of Stage 3: Change Stage
During the “change stage” certain feelings and happenings will occur mysteriously which will make a person feel extremely sensitive and unsettled. I shall discuss these specific events here in order to reassure the reader that these events happen. They are perfectly normal in everyone's life, during the “change stage”.
Feeling alone?
Appropriate relationships, the demands of your life during this period of transformation, will force you to reevaluate which relationships in your life are worth keeping and which are not.
If you do not face this challenge consciously, then events will occur that will force you too to do so. Even people who have been with you for a long time will leave against your wishes.
Suddenly you will find yourself feeling alone and out of touch with everybody. You may feel you have no support from others, even loved ones whom you have counted on in the past for love and support. Even people whom you have helped and supported in the past suddenly are not there, now that you need help.
This breakdown in relationships is perfectly normal, whilst a person is changing. Think of a person like a spider on a spiders web, before the person can move on to a new home and a new life, it is vitally necessary to detach oneself from the present entanglements, when the last disconnection is made , one maybe exceedingly fragile and lonely, but now one is free to move anywhere .
This influence of change is likely to have a very disruptive effect on your relationships. Influences may enter your life during this stage that will challenge the foundations upon which your life is built. This challenge will be reflected in surprising encounters with others that upset your way of living or in sudden separations from persons who you thought would always be in your life.
During this period, it is quite likely that you will do things and go places you never would have thought of in the past. Anyone who is wedded to the status quo in life or to their past, will find this influence exceedingly disturbing and difficult.
Even ones true love and aspirations of romance will change. In false romance that pursues purely animalistic passions and desires, the lower sexual-drive energies predominate. As with all materialistic and animals desires, this urge and attraction wears-off with time.
True love & romance is open hearted, heart centered full of emotions based on truth, love and sincerity. True romance utilizes the energy of ones soul. As we explain in the chapter on Soulmates as one connects with ones soulmate, the spiritual energy created in the connection will bring you both very close to each other. On a level of telepathy, one knows exactly what the other one is thinking and feeling. There is indeed a sense of wholesomeness as each knows they are each others half, feeling the pain and joy of the other person.
During the transformation stage of mid-life crisis, one may look to deepen ones relationship with ones spouse rising to this spiritual level OR one may indeed be going through a divorce in search of ones true soulmate and destiny. Recognizing that ones current spouse is NOT ones true destiny is another difficult decision to make during the transitional change stage.
3. Understanding that ALL the Changes in Our Life Happen for Our Good, They are Destined - So be Calm and Accept ALL Changes with Happiness
בהרחבת הדעת וּמנוּחת הנפש
This is my blessing ברכה Brucha, to you in our generation when people are experiencing difficult changes, to wish everyone tranquility and peace of mind. Learn to accept the tests, challenges and changes in our life with peace of mind, calmness and acceptance from GOD.
There is nothing wrong in having made mistakes in ones youth, provided one is honest in mid-life to admit the mistakes, and change for the better. It is well known that one of the greatest Rabbis - Rabbi Akiva only began his spiritual learning at the age of 40.
Learn to trust in GOD and spirit world, take life calmly, accepting everything that happens is for the best. In acknowledging the fact that ones life was on the wrong pathway, needs courage and strength of character to leave the past in the past and move on to the future.
Whilst changes are occurring, trust and know that there is a divine plan for you and that nothing happens by accident or coincidence. Everything will turn out just fine for you in your life and you too will arrive at the golden stage of, radiating the glow of a purposeful life, of loving kindness, aliveness and vitality. It will happen for you, just like it has happened for millions of people before you on our planet, created by GOD for a purposeful, creative life of love and change.
Our destiny and purpose in this life is to change.
Life on planet earth is constantly changing; the flowers, trees, animal kingdom and even the most stubborn of human beings who resist change are changing.
Consider a tree during the seasons; does the tree resist change during the autumn months as the leaves fall off? We all understand that this is a cycle of life, the tree has not died, simply taking a rest during the winter, before it reinvents itself and grows longer and bigger in the spring.
עוּרוּ עוּרוּ משינתכם
So Wake Up, Be Brave and Change
Embrace life and the wonderful changes that will transform your life !
Then one's Life really will change irreversibly for the better !
FootNotes to This Page on "Change"
The comparison of the transformation of a Caterpillar transforming into a butterfly is quoted by "Sefer Shinuyim" from the "Tiferes Yisroel" ,Reb Yisroel Lipschitz - yarzheit 3rd Tishrei in Derush Ohr HaChayim . This תפארת ישראל with respect to proving תחית המתים .
In the following pages we shall explain
2. The need to change ones thoughts and THINK POSITIVE
"The Pathway to Enlightenment"
Section 2 of "Heavensregister" called "The Pathway to Enlightenment", with emphasis on CHANGE, "Cleansing ones soul" and "unblocking life's blockages" - עיכובים placed upon ones soul in order to force a person to CHANGE. Taken completely from Sefer Shinuyim - the book of Changes and Sefer Tikunim - the book of Corrections.
The Website www.timeforchange.info is currently directed to this webpage; the new website www.timeforchange.info is planned for Summer 2008 & www.midlifecrisishelp.com is also planned for Summer 2007.